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7 Confessions of a Blogger

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Many of my friends and family ask me, “Jessica, what does a blogger actually do?”  I won’t lie. When I first started telling people that I “blogged,” I almost said it with a little “shame,” because I felt people would look at me like, “Oh…so you don’t really do anything, so you just say you’re a blogger so you can act like you really “do” something.” I have no idea why I thought that way in the beginning. Perhaps it was my insecurities of caring what people really thought about me.

But with some help along the way, such as:

  • “Bloggers,” becoming more known to be the “Next big thing,” and
  • Gradually brushing away the insecurity of caring what other people think of me.

I am now proud to say that I “blog,” and feel that I have confidence in saying so, to anyone that may ask me.

{Sidenote: Just recently on the airplane ride back home from the Build Your Blog Conference that I attended in Salt Lake City, I sat next to a man who initiated conversation when we were starting to land back in St. Louis. He began with,

—“So are you like a fashion blogger? I happened to look over and noticed you were creating a post on WordPress.” {He was watching me create my post, “Casual Night Out Makeup.”}

—“Why yes I am!”

—“That’s interesting. I actually work for a marketing firm that works with bloggers, and advertising with them. I actually just worked with Jenny Craig on something, and you would have been a great fit for that.”

    I about DIED laughing. I did give him a little “crap,” for saying I would have been perfect to work with Jenny Craig. He laughed and affirmed that he was talking about my blog would have been a great fit to work with, rather than myself. Lol!}

But what I developed in that moment was just another, “What I do matters, and is what I’m meant to do.” Talking to someone that “gets it,” means the world. It was the first time, that I had said, “Yes I’m a blogger,” and not had at least a tiny bit of hesitation in my voice.

So What Is Blogging, and Do You Actually Get Paid to Blog?

You betcha. If you read my “About Me,” page, you know that I started blogging, as just an “outlet,” to take a break from changing diapers and washing baby bottles. But after about a year of blogging, I started finding companies and brands reaching out to me, ask if I would like to work with them, and saying that they actually wanted to PAY me! “Who, me!?” I’ll never forget the first paid opportunity I received. I called my husband with so much excitement, so he could see that what I was doing, was actually going somewhere, and heck… may even allow me to financially contribute to our growing family.

 Let’s get real…

Now you know me.  I like to be real with you all. So I like to throw it out all on the table, which leads me to “Confessions of a blogger.” If you’re thinking of getting in to blogging, just starting out as a blogger, an experienced blogger to see if you can relate, or just want get a little behind the scenes, action…JUST because… I’ve admitted some here:

7 Confessions of a blogger:

  • I take 500 photos before I finally choose the one that I want to share on Facebook or instagram. But then it takes me another 20 minutes to edit it. I could have ran a mile by the time it took me to post a photo that I try to make look like I just snapped it and threw it up on social media. Wait… who am I kidding? It would take me 2 hours to run a (ahem) walk a mile.
  • I sometimes wake up at 4am and think about the “quiet,” time I could have while everyone is sleeping, and get up and blog. Sleep is overrated. Well, until 7:00 that evening when I hate myself for getting up so early to blog.
  • My husband and I had to make a new rule in our house. I love to blog in the evening when the kids go to bed. But I realized that it was majorly cutting out on my husband and I’s alone time. I was totally missing out on spending that precious time with him, because my head was buried in a computer screen. So now… I only blog when he’s not home, early in the morning before he wakes, during the day if the boys are with the sitter, or in a rare moment where the boys are playing together in the play room, and I have a quick moment to hop online. If I’m not careful, my boys will be teenagers in a blink of an eye, and I’ll miss the whole things. Managing my time as a mom/wife, with my love for blogging is definitely something I need to improve on.
  • I pay people to do the technical stuff. Well… some of it. If you’re a blogger and you do everything in the “back end,” yourself. God bless you. I’d rather poke my eyeballs out, than to tinker with the mumble jumble techy stuff. I love to write, so I focus on that.
  • I haven’t gotten burnt out yet. I hear over and over from bloggers how they sometimes get “burnt,” out. I’m sure it’s easy to do that. But I feel if you’re burnt out on blogging, you may not be blogging about something you’re passionate about. I’m passionate about reaching out to people, and helping them solve a problem. Whether it be how to help your baby sleep better, or how to decorate a small room in your house. So I believe that by not blogging about one specific “thing,” it helps me from getting burnt out.
  • I totally justify buying that piece of furniture or that crafting tool, because I tell myself, “I can blog about this, so I need it.” Um… I bet I can blog about how awesome that “thing,” is, without actually buying it for myself. But what fun would that be? My husband rolls his eyes {all out of love of course} every time he sees the UPS or FedEx driver pull up to the house. “But honey… it’s for the blog.” —- “Uh huh.” 😉
  • I’m a total introvert. {See the post that I did on “How to Care for an Extrovert or an Introvert.”} Come to find out… a large majority of bloggers are introverts. Why is that? I think it’s because it’s easier to sit behind a computer screen and build relationships, than it is in person for us like-minded peeps. When I attended the Build Your Blog Conference last month, my introvertedness was on high alert, and I developed anxiety any time I saw, “Networking,” on the agenda. “You mean… I actually have to reach out and strike up conversation with a stranger? Oh heck no.” But really… I learned that I wasn’t alone.

Whew… it feels good to get that off of my chest. Not that I was hiding it… but that it’s just another “Here I am… and this is the real me,” tidbit.

I can’t count the times that I’ve received emails or messages thanking me for being “real,” and laying it all out there. I promise to you that I will NEVER change that. Building a trust, and a platform, for people to feel comfortable in, all while enjoying a moment of honesty, is almost better than a big ole piece of chocolate cake. Almost. 😉

7 thoughts on “7 Confessions of a Blogger

  1. Love these confessions! I think the biggest struggle is the balancing of time. Because we are our own boss we can work whenever. But because of that there is always something to do. I have had people ask how much o actually do. Between writing, networking, managing social media, looking or handling other opportunities, creating furniture, up cycle s or diy (I am a diy/home decor blogger) and them taking and editing pictures. It is so much. I could be working all day and still walk away with a to do list. I liked that your brought up calling yourself a blogger, or that you blog. I get the same reactions. I had one person say “that is cute”. I also write for other sites so have gotten used to calling myself a freelance writer. That seems to be a term people dont mind as much. And all assume I make bank as a freelance writer. But pennies as a blogger. Go figure!

    1. Jessica says:

      You know…you are so right! The to-do list is never ending, but perhaps that’s why I love blogging so much too! I love how there is always something to change or improve on.
      And “Freelance Writer,” that’s something I never even THOUGHT about adding to my “resume.” 🙂 Thanks so much for reading, and dropping a note. It’s my favorite thing when people leave me little notes. 🙂

  2. Ali Gilbert says:

    Yes! Yes! and Yes!

  3. Adrian says:

    That is awesome that you were blogging on the plane. I can so relate to your balance issues. I myself was up blogging until 2:00 this morning. Sorry I didn’t get to meet you at #BYBC2015. I was the crazy extrovert lady posting about her fingernails.

    1. Jessica says:

      LOL! That’s hysterical. I hate that we didn’t get to meet now too!!! Thank you so much for stopping by and dropping a note! Here’s to better balance! Hope you got to catch up on sleep! 🙂

  4. J. Starwalt says:

    Hello! I am also a blogger and I love it! I almost died when I read you are from Farmington! I’m in Arnold! My blog is about ending the stigma of mental illness, lifting up and empowering women and my life, in general. I’d love to connect and chat! facebook.com/jessicaand.starwalt Loved this entry!

    Talk soon!

    1. Jessica says:

      Oh how incredible! It’s amazing to see what a small world it is, especially in the world of blogging! Connecting sounds great! I’ll head over for a visit! Thanks for coming by!

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