I was exhausted. Some days I’m still exhausted. Being a new mom of 2, can definitely make you want to hide in the panty some days and cry your eyeballs out. (Insert my memory of the Sex and the City 2 movie, where Charlotte goes in the pantry and cries for just a moment, because her kiddos are stressing her out.)
Dear New Mom of Two…
I’ll begin by saying that my two boys are 2 1/2 years apart. Moms with kids that have a bigger age gap may be completely different. If so… I’d love to hear about it in the comments below. Mom’s that stay at home with their kids, and Mom’s that work outside of the home may also be different from one another. Me? I’m a mix of both. I stay at home, and work outside of the office at times. So it may vary for each person.
Living with one child wasn’t a cake walk. If you say your kid is perfect… that’s fantastic. (But I highly doubt that Jesus has to share the spotlight on that one. But being a new mom of two, whew. My life has officially changed. Would I trade for anything? HECK no. I love my kids, would die for them. But my day to day has changed. My looks have changed. My attitude has changed.
So to a mom who may be thinking about having her second, or a mom that has had her second, third, fourth, whatever… here’s my letter to you.
An honest letter to you:
“Dear New Mom of Two,
Yes, you are normal to feel like your body hasn’t gone back to the way it did after you had your first child. Yep, add that under eye cream to your shopping list, because it’s normal to be, and look completely “baggy eyed,” until your baby starts sleeping through the night. You betcha it’s normal for your toddler to look at your belly and grab the baby belly fat, and squish it between their little fingers.
Hey you, Mom of dos kiddos… yes it’s common to watch your second little bambino pick a strange something up off of the floor, stick it in their mouth and wait just a split second to see if they spit it out, before you make it over to them to take it out. (Because frankly, you’re just too exhausted to get up and grab it at the moment, unlike when your first was born when you dropped everything to see what the movement in their mouth was, only to find it was just their tongue shifting.) Yep, that’s normal… go ahead… put the baby bottles in the dishwasher. I know you washed the baby bottles by hand the first time around, but that dishwasher will give you an extra 5 minutes to do something else.
Yep, check off of your list that it’s normal to forget the last time you updated your second kiddos baby book. Yeppers, new mom of two, you may just get cabin fever for the first few months, because even THINKING about taking both kids out of the house by yourself sounds like a panic attack waiting to happen.
Hey new mom of two, yes it’s normal to think in the middle of the night when you’re exhausted, “I love my babies so much, but I’m done with this havin’ more kids thing. Not sleeping is for the birds.” Yes it’s common to have the moments of sneaking in to a room by your self, or turning your head to shed a tear of stress relief, just for a moment so your oldest doesn’t see how stressed you are.
But guess what, new mom of two:
Guess what else is normal? The ever so amazing feeling of getting kisses and hugs from TWO of your kiddos. The sweet realization that there’s no need to stress about certain items with having a new baby, so you embrace those moments of snuggle time just a little bit more than you may have with your first.
The bags under your eyes start to fade. (Yep, it may be because of that night cream, but it gets better.) The belly pooch may never go away, but you begin to think to yourself, “TWO, little miracles came out of that, and all of a sudden it makes it all worth it.”
Oh, and guess what else is normal “Mom of Two?” To feel sweet relief when the two of your children start playing together, and give you a split second of free time to catch up on those dirty dishes. Or how about when you’re overcome with joy when your youngest grins and chuckles at your oldest for the first time.
And new mom of two… Remember that God trusted and loved you enough to give you a second baby, after seeing how amazingly awesome you were with your first child.
If you’re reading this today, stressed out with being a new mom of two, remember that you are BLESSED beyond measure to have two babies, when there are women out there all over the world, praying for just a chance at having one. Love and hug on those TWO babies of yours tonight and thank God that those precious little miracles are healthy enough to be wild enough to make you feel crazy at times. But it’s a-ok to feel tired, stressed, and completely worn out. Don’t feel guilty ONE bit.
New mom of Three?
Now, to a new mom of THREE? I dunno. I’m not there. (Yet at least.) I thought I was done at two, but I may have just convinced myself by reading my own post that three may not be such a crazy idea. 😉
Until next time…
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