It’s episode 7 of the Creating Your Happy series, and it also just so happens to be the second marriage Q&A where my husband and I answer the questions that you anonymously submit!
After 18 years, and practically growing up together, we’ve been through a lot; times that we remember because they were full of joy, and times of struggle and pure grief.
We’re Not Perfect… Quite the Opposite
When it comes to marriage, we have a relationship that may look pretty familiar to your marriage. We argue, we have tough conversations, and then a few weeks later we may be posting photos on our Facebook about how thankful we are for our spouse and making people throw up in their mouths with a lovey dovey post about each other.
But what we’ve been hearing from so many of you, is that you want more and more of our marriage videos where we our share real-life struggles. Luckily my hubby is on board, and loves sitting in on these videos too, where we can answer your questions and share what’s in our hearts.
Marriage Q&A: Episode 7 of Creating Your Happy
If you missed last months marriage q&a video that we did, you may want to hop over to our YouTube channel to catch that. The feedback that we received was FAR more than we ever imagined. This response was by far one of my favorites that we received. Why? Because she found that she’s not alone and that she can relate to something that we shared in that video. Although we may not have provided her with a simple “fix,” solution… I do hear the peace in her message, from knowing that she’s not alone.
See what she said…
Hey Jessica….so I just watched your video and thought it was great. You guys answered a question that really gave me a whole new look on my marriage. I’m really glad Matt said what he did because I’ve heard the same thing from my husband but sometimes I felt that, it was just an excuse that he was using. But hearing another man say it and be serious about it, kinda changes things.
So thank u both for that. And honestly you were so right about everyone thinking that it’s not going to happen to them, because I was that person. And honestly, I judged you guys too because I thought you had the perfect marriage and how could THEY answer tough marriage questions.
But what I didn’t realize is that everyone struggles with something and I’m truly sorry for being quick to judge. I guess God was trying to tell me something because your and Matt’s answer to the cheating question is exactly what I needed to hear. Our incident was yrs ago too, but I still struggle on forgetting, I feel that there is always a wall there, being scared it’s going to happen again…and sometimes I feel like I don’t know how to put that wall down. Once again I’m truly sorry for judging. I think what you guys are doing is great, because it has helped me realize something already. Keep up the great work!!
These are the kinds of messages that make my heart go pitter-pat, and help us realize that we need to keep doing this.
Let’s get on with this month’s marriage q&a, answering three of the questions that you all have submitted. Then, if you have an anonymous question that you’d like for us to answer, you can submit that here:
Did we answer any of your questions?
In case you’re unable to watch now, here are the three questions that we tackled in this video:
#1: My husband & I have been married 10 years. We have come to a place in our relationship where we seem to not like one another. He won’t go to counseling. We have small children. Sometimes I feel like I would be happier alone but I hate the thought of splitting up my little family. I don’t think that either one of us is happy.
#2: How do you keep office hours? Or do you? I really struggle with turning off my brain in the evening and find myself working (even if it’s just scheduling or responding to social media comments I’ve gotten on my phone). When I should be focusing on my family and my husband. The great thing is, I love what I do, but the bad thing is, I could easily let it take up way too much of my time and I don’t want to lose these years with my kids nor do I wish to sacrifice my marriage upon the altar of my job. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.
#3: How do you keep the flame going when you have jobs, and two kids?
Submit Your Anonymous Questions:
We are already lining up the next questions to answer on our next marriage Q&A video in the Creating Your Happy series, so get your questions in, and we’ll get to all of them in the upcoming videos!
We truly do hope that we’ve helped someone out there in some way. Please never hesitate to reach out or if you still have any questions about these topics. We’d love to help if we can.