WHEW! There are some brutal people out there! Ever since I published this post, it has gone crazy viral and some of you are NOT afraid to speak your mind. So I feel I must explain my intentions with this post, to explain where I’m coming from.
My husband is very good to me, and does extremely nice things for me. So in return, and out of respect, I like to do nice things for him.
Have you ever heard someone say,
Be the wife your husband can’t wait to come home to at night?
No? Yes? I’ve heard it a million times, and I always try to keep advice in my head. As I would hope my husband would think the visa versa. Right?
So I began to think,
What are some things that he would love, to really make him feel special?
and this post was born.
No people, I’m not saying rewind 60 years and be a Stepford Wife. I’m just saying what I like to do for my husband to show my appreciation, and I would very well expect respect in return. Right?
So let’s carry on with this post, and maybe all of the bullies will stop “hating,” on this post. If not… sorry. This is something that works well in my marriage, and I hope it can give someone else great ideas too! If not, I’d LOVE to hear what works in your marriage. Every marriage is different.
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Back to the post:
It may be a husband who is in the military and is coming home after a year stay overseas, a husband that has only been gone for 3 days, or a husband that is coming home after a long day at work.
(P.S. You gals that have husbands gone for a super long time, I COMPLETELY adore your strength.)
A little behind the scenes…
My husband owns his own company, and like many other professions, those days as a CEO of a large company, can be excruciating. There’s nothing more that I want to do when he comes home, than to show him my appreciation for working hard. Don’t hear what I’m not saying. I’m not saying I don’t work hard.
I’m a stay at home mom, and I run and operate THIS… my blog. But I AM saying that I want to make our home a place that he’s excited to come home to, every night. ESPECIALLY when he’s been gone for a few days.
How to Make Your Husband WANT to Come Home:
So how do I do this so-called, “making him happy to come home,” thang?
Just don’t ask my husband, because he may tell you different. Haha! Kidding. Only kidding.
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His love language.
Every husband is different. If you read my post on the secret to a marriage, then you know that everyone has their “language,” that speaks to their heart. (Some husbands, may have more than one.) Read up on what your husbands love language is, and think about something that would fulfill that language that he speaks! ๐ You can buy the book “The Five Love Languages” HERE!
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Be positive.
Yes, I know real-life happens, and sometimes life throws us some curveballs. The kids were acting awful, the lawn-mower chucked a rock at the dining room window, or the bank account is in the red because it’s been a rough month. But keeping a positive attitude when he walks through that door, can really help for the later part in the evening when it’s time to have a conversation about the not-so-fun things. So when he walks through the door, maybe wait just a bit before you throw up all of the “uglies” at him.
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Send him love notes.
Once a day, I will try to remember to send him a love note, through text. Yeah yeah yeah… I could get up early, write him a sweet note, and stick it in his coffee cup sleeve… but that’s not going to happen. So when breakfast is over, the kids are playing on their own, I’ll send my hubby a little love note, through a text. “How did I get so lucky to deserve you?” Or something like, “I can’t wait to see you when you get home.” That little “surprise” with something nice can really make his day.
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Ask him.
In the evening after the kids are off to bed, many times, I’ll ask him:
I’m grabbing something to drink, do you want something?
Or before he leaves for work, I may ask him:
I’m pretty free today. Is there anything you need help with?
Not only are you doing something nice for him by offering to help him… you may also figure out some of the types of things he likes for you to do for him. He may say something like:
You wouldn’t have time to take my truck for an oil change would you? Or I’ll have to take it on Saturday, and miss the little guy’s soccer game.
What?! Who knew? I thought he liked getting out of the house on Saturday mornings by himself to get the oil changed.
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Get fancy-schmancy.
Now Mom, (my mom), you may want to stop reading here. I may say some things that you don’t want to read or know about your daughter.
(Mom… you’re still reading aren’t you? You’re such a rebel.)
As a mom, I’m usually jumping in the shower as quick as I can, while my kids sit in the bathroom floor. So tending to my female upkeep, can be considered a rare and special occasion. ๐ Shave those legs. Don’t forget the armpits, and whatever else you shave. Paint those toe-nails. Put on that lotion that’s supposed entice your hubby in to the sheets. (But like he needs a lotion from Victoria Secret to put him in the mood.) Put on that “Woah Baby,” outfit you bought at the mall a year ago that you’ve been dreading, putting on. And surprise him with a raring and ready to go attitude. Every man may be different, but I have a feeling most would appreciate this one. ๐
Wrap Up.
I so hope I didn’t offend you, but rather give you some ideas to try and show your husband that you love and care for him. I’d love to hear what you think below! But please remember, I’m human. I’m not a computer. So although I want you to be honest, I would love for you to also be kind. XOXO
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Just remember…”Be the woman your husband can’t wait to come home to.”
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Lynne says
I loved the post. In a way, it all does boil down to simply being nice and showing love, which isn’t always easy when life gets hectic and crazy. Thank you so much for sharing yours!
I also think it’s helpful to think about the things your love does that makes you feel loved. I find it’s a good clue for things that will make him feel loved back. My boyfriend is such a doer, he will not come to my house without planning to fix something or help me with a project. So when the timing belt broke on his truck and he was stressed out about not having time to fix it, I put on my grub clothes and crawled right under there with him. That happens to fall into my wheel house, so it wasn’t a big deal for me, but if I didn’t have mechanical ability I would have been there at least handing him tools or some coffee. This happened months ago but my boyfriend still brags on me doing that with him. And I admit, we had some nice intimate time getting (wink wink) dirty (which he thankfully kept to himself during the bragging). I think taking care of something he feels responsible for either for him or with him, especially when he might be having a hard week is the greatest. How sweet is it if he always does the yard work for him to come home and find the lawn is cut and trimmed up so he can spend time with you? And in some cases, you don’t have to do whatever it is yourself, you could always slip the neighbo kid a few bucks to do it!
Another thing I personally like to do is make him a favorite meal. I enjoy cooking, especially learning new food. So when he mentioned he loved it, I learned to make naan. And about a dozen other things on different occasions. I don’t advocate doing that if you’re for some reason against cooking for a guy but the challenge of learning to make something new is something I enjoy. I think you enjoying the act is important. He (or she!) will sense if you’re doing something you don’t want to do and that could take away from the favor part of it. Feeling and looking for new ways to express love is the key. And also remembering the tried and true ways that worked in the beginning. My boyfriend was very sad in the beginning of our relationship when the anniversary of his moms death was coming. He mentioned it to me several times. I took a break from my own life to drive two hours just to give him the big hug he needed. Then I turned around and drove back because that was all the time either of us had that day.You can’t always do the crazy things you wish you could to show someone you care, but when you can, I think you have to make time for the important things!
Oops, this comment turned out much longer than I planned, really just wanted to let you know your post was appreciated and agreed with and say keep up the great work!
Jessica says
Wow! What a great comment AND story! I thoroughly enjoyed reading it! It sounds like you two are so perfect for each other!! Thank you so much for sharing, and visiting! ๐
Tammy says
I think in today’s world a lot of people forget how to be nice and too many people feel entitled to anything their heart desires. It is nice and refreshing to see some old fashion attitude when it comes to relationships. My husband and I have been together for 10 years we both work full time and he still opens the door for me and I still make sure dinner is on the table for him. There is nothing wrong in respecting and caring for each others needs. That’s how you save relationships.
Jessica says
That is sooo wonderful. I’d kill for my husband to open the door for me. Haha!! I’ve always wanted that… but he does other nice things too, so I’m thankful for those! Thank you so much for dropping, and telling your story! ๐
Jim says
Your post was shared with me by Pintrest as, Chosen Just for You. The title intrigued me as a married man with 4 kids + 4 in-law kids and 7 grandkids. My first thought was, i dint need my wife to say 5 things or do five things. As I’m backing out of the driveway I can’t wait to get back home to my wife. After reading your blog, I realized why. She already does those things. She takes care of me physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I also realize my three son’s treat their wives the same as I treat their mother and that’s where good relationships really begin. Our children see how we treat each other and assume that is “normal”. Thanks for sharing good advice.
Jessica says
Awwwww! Your comment made my day! Thank you so much!
I love how you ran across the post, and enjoyed it! So happy to hear that you’re happy too! Thanks so much for sharing your story!
Gianna Larson says
You are a doll and I couldn’t agree with you more!
Jessica says
Awwwww, thank you Gianna! I hope you come by again soon! XO
Vicki says
I love your article! Being submissive and putting our husbands needs first doesn’t mean being a doormat. It’s showing respect and appreciation, and when you do so, you are more likely to receive it in return. I read once that the best way to get your husband to treat you like a queen is to treat him like a king(: Most sitcoms portray men in families as bumbling idiots and the mom as the one who wears the pants in the family and make fun of her husband, as do the kids. That is not a healthy attitude.
Jessica says
I love that Vicki, and I totally agree!! Thank you so much for stopping by and dropping a note!
Hannah says
I don’t know how anyone could say negative things about this post! What’s wrong with a woman who tries to please her man and make him excited to come home? I appreciate this post and agree with all your points. One thing I make sure to do every night when my husband arrives is stop what I’m doing (if at all possible), give him a big smile, and say something to welcome him in the door. Then as soon as I can, I walk over and give him a hug and a kiss. He always appreciates it!
Jessica says
Thanks for commenting Hannah! I love that you do that!!! I bet he does feel welcome when you do that. Who wouldn’t, right!? ๐ Thank you so much for sharing and stopping by! I hope you come back again soon, and please drop me a note again if so! ๐
Rebecca says
Great article! I LOVE seeing these types of posts that remind us wives how much power we really have in our relationships. It’s hard, but worth it to see your husband happy and feel appreciated. My sweet husband gives it back 10x over!
Ps- I admire your for staying strong against the haters! It’s really tough when people are so mean behind the safety of a keyboard.
Jessica says
Thank you so much Rebecca! I know exactly what you mean. Seeing their face light up, is such a great feeling! Thank you for the kind words… you’ve made my day. ๐
Susan, married 32 years ;-) says
Why would anyone be a “hater” of advice that just proclaims your love for the person you’re supposed to love only 2nd to Jesus? Crazy stuff. Keep on, love DOES win ๐
Jessica says
Thank you Susan! I really appreciate it!
Rebaone says
Thank you for this post. I have a great marriage but my poor husband has had to deal with constant complaints about work, my colleagues and a whole list of other things the minute he walks through the door. I will definitely put your suggestions to use and make the time he gets home special for him. I work full-time and have two small children so I hardly EVER have time to make him feel special and I feel bad about it
Jessica says
Awww, well we all can’t be super positive all of the time, that’s for sure. Life can get tiring and stressful. My poor husband barely got a cup of coffee this morning from me! Lol! So I just try to do the best I can! ๐ Thank you so much for dropping a note, and thank you for coming by!! I hope you come by again soon! XO
Cristin says
I completely agree with your post, my husband is so good at doing things that not all dads do like bathing the kids or doing laundry. After doing construction type work all day. I stay pretty busy too but I don’t do manual labor like he does so I really don’t expect him to do those things when he gets home. I get caught up in the stress of being a mom and don’t always give him much attention and that makes us feel like roommates, I hate that. Marriage takes effort so I can always use ideas like this, and reminders to make more of an effort . I know way too many couples that just don’t try anymore and that makes the whole family unhappy. People really do get offended by everything these days.
Jessica says
I am SO glad that you were able to use this post as a reminder! He sounds like a fabulous husband! It’s easy to get wrapped up in the stress for sure. I totally hear you on that one. Thank you so much for dropping a note and letting me know that you came by! I truly appreciate it! XO
Emma says
hi! I am a feminist (the kind that believes in equal rights between men and women for the record that is real feminism) I am also a stay at home mom with two little ones and a wife(going on 10 years!!! Yikes!) to an amazing man. I so agree that to have a happy marriage you need happy spouses(two happy spouses!!!. I love what you wrote and I totally agree. I often do try to take the time to make my husband feel special. It is funny how some people are freaking out about this post but the truth is to have a happy stable and healthy relationship you need to take the time to consider the other person in the relationship. You are partners 50 50 :)I love how you specified that he also takes the time to be a supportive partner to you and that is so important! I believe the reason for so many divorces these days is that we forget how we made each other feel first before all the responsibilities and kids came. Thanks for posting it’s a great reminder ๐
Jessica says
Thank you so much for your comment! I agree. We probably unintentionally forget about the things that each other likes. We rush around just trying to get through the day, and before you know it… months and years go by before we may realize it. I’m so happy you stopped by! XO
Tacie says
Great reminder for the busy wife with an even busier traveling husband. These things aren’t hard to do–or earth shattering advice–they’re simply the things we so often get to busy to remember. And as a career woman with kids at home who has a husband that travels, these are all things I do intentionally on a regular basis. My marriage thrives as a result. Is my marriage perfect? Heck no. But it helps me remember that he’s my person and that I married him for reasons and that I’m still crazy in love with him. It helps him remember the same things and makes him want to come home ๐
Jessica says
Oh of course… no marriage is perfect, that’s for SURE! Love your take on it! Thank you!
DeonnA Wade says
love this! I wrote a post about police wives that went viral and I had so many haters I had to write a disclaimer at the beginning too! Haha
Jessica says
Thank you! Oh so you TOTALLY get it! Lol! I had no idea that it would upset so many! Eeeek!
Jehiely a says
Love it! Thank you so much for taking the time trying ti inspired other! God bless… Xox
Jessica says
Thank you!!! That’s so sweet! I hope it helps someone out there looking for ideas! ๐ Have a great weekend! XO
Ros Emely@stressfreemommies says
I love this post! I will keep this in mind and definitely put it to practice! I think your suggestions are helpful!
Jessica says
Oh gooood! So glad that you found it helpful! You’re so sweet to leave a comment! I hope you come back to visit! ๐ XO
Rachell says
Jessica, this is a great article, we all too often get swept up in our busy lives. I think your article could be titled “5 simples ways to make your SPOUSE want to come home” my husband and I are both currently in the military so some days are longer for him and some days are longer for me, I think that’s possible for all couples, so it needs to become important for each member of the “team” to work to try and make coming home, regardless of the day you’ve had, not a chore. I try to walk in the door and greet my husband with a smile and cheerful voice… Many nights, mostly when I come home later, I try and walk in that way and can get a distracted less than enthusiastic response, and it just kind of takes the wind out of my sails for a moment. It’s important to make the other feel That you are happy to be home and that he spouse is happy to have them home!
Jessica says
You’re right! I think I titled it that way, because I was gearing in my head what i like to do for my husband. If I worded it the other way, I think I may like other types of things… well, maybe. Lol!
Love your comment, and thank you so much for taking time out to leave one! XO
Lisa says
I LOVED your post! โค๏ธ???????
I too have had some upsetting things said to me in social media. I am disabled and initially joined several online support groups. Some folks don’t respect ideas and thoughts that are different than theirs.
I think sometimes it’s easy to misinterpret exactly what one is trying to communicate when you’re reading it without the benefit of facial expressions and tone of voice.
In telling someone what works for me might not work for them as we are all unique individuals, some only read or see what they want. People get very sensitive sometimes too about their ideas and beliefs if others don’t agree. Anyhow, it’s sad as it got to be bad for a lot of us in those so called support groups. So I left All of those groups. ?
In general people are not as nice and kind to others as years ago? I was raised to treat others how I’d like to be treated. But many these days seem to only care about themselves. Sadly, It seems to me I’ve seen more unkind people in this world than I did prior to getting sick (a bit disturbing)? I’ve heard this from others as well. Though I am well aware that not everyone is rude or hateful, I do think more than ever before are.
Don’t ever let the actions or words of another stop you from being who you are in this life. I personally CELEBRATE our differences in life. I applaud a unique individual. This world would certainly be very boring if we were all the same! I know you didn’t lose sleep. But others do over this kind of thing and I hope to express to them to “shake it off and keep going.” Others opinions are just that. Opinions are not fact and only you know who you really are and what kind of person you want to be.
Don’t ever change who you are for someone else. Some certainly could afford to be kinder though! Though no one is perfect and we all have bad days. Remember the old saying,
“If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!” I write this in respect and not judgement.
Anyhow, I LOVED YOUR POST! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
As someone trying to better my marriage,
I read a lot of your posts. I like them all.
I might not agree on every topic but mostly,
I find them inspiring and motivational.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORKโผ๏ธโผ๏ธ
Jessica says
Best. Comment. Ever. Not because you were nice to me… but because of the heart and soul behind it! Thank you so much for leaving such a great note. I love all of the encouragement you have, not just for me… but for anyone reading it. I’m so sorry you have been through such heartache. You’re inspirational. Thank you for following along, and I hope to see you around here again soon! XO
Deda says
Hi Jessica,
I know this is an older post but I had to write that these tips you wrote are not only great,I truly believe that if I would have implemented them, my ex Husband would not have left home.
The main reason that he gave for leaving was that I did not appreciate him enough and in hindsight I believe that is what happened.
There is nothing wrong with these tips and it is not women being subservient but rather providing a happy environment not just for the man but for the women and children as well!
So I wanted to add that these tips are not only something that would make a husband happy to come home, but also a means to divorce proof a marriage!
For me to be honest I have to admit that if these were implemented I wholeheartedly believe that I would still be married.
You are a great woman and wife, I wish you the best
Jessica says
Oh Deda, thank you SO much for your comment! Not because it agrees with what I said in this post, but because I can TRULY feel the heart behind it, and for sharing your story. I’m so thankful you came by today, and continue to pop in! I love your honestly,and willingness to share! Also, thank you for your sweet words, and encouragement! XO
Andrea says
Very encouraging and an excellent example to follow!
Jessica says
Awww, thank you Andrea for leaving a comment! So glad that you found it encouraging! I sure don’t succeed in all of these every day, but I try to do at least one, and sometimes that doesn’t happen. Haha! Have a great day!
Kaye says
I don’t see any negative comments here so I may be way off base with my thoughts. Just because someone disagrees with your opinion, this does not make them automatically a bully or a hater. I think those terms get thrown around a lot lately. I’m not sure what constitutes being a hater, possibly comments including feelings of hate toward you or your ideas. Simply having a difference of opinion does not make one a hater. In regards to bullying, there must be some physical or emotional intimidation. It’s possible that people are threatening you, I certainly hope not.
Signed,
Not a hater, not a bully, just someone who might disagree.
Jessica says
Hi Kaye. Thank you for your comment. Yes, there are no negative comments on this post… however there were some very hateful comments, emails, posts, etc. on my social media outlets, etc.
I appreciate all comments, thoughts, and opinions. However when someone{s} out there, purposely goes out of their way to demean, name-call, make fun of, etc… it’s disheartening for sure.
Sometimes I think when people read things on the Internet, they may forget that a real person may have written it, and are quick to judge, say hurtful things, etc.. because it doesn’t seem like a real person is sitting on the other side. It’s also easy to sit behind a computer and say what they want, but I guarantee a lot of them would have a hard time saying some of the things that they said, to me in person.
But yes, things were said on other outlets towards me, that I would definitely consider bullying. Did I lose sleep over it? Heck no. ๐
Liz P. says
Jessica, you were way too nice to Kaye. I think she was being a little facetious. However, I think you are a wonderful person, and an amazing wife. Women aren’t grateful enough for their husbands who work hard for the family. Good for you for being proud, and not letting those bully’s and haters get to you. Your pretty, and a grateful woman, and they’re just jealous. Keep it up, girl! By the way, I have an awesome husband, too. I’m very blessed.
Jessica says
You are so sweet Liz. Unfortunately, most of the hateful comments were on Pinterest and emails! Crazy, right!? Your kind words are just what I needed to hear today too! Thank you so much for being so sweet. Never hesitate to drop a note again! XOXO
Badlandsbabe says
Liz… Like wise, men aren’t grateful enough for their wife’s who work just as hard & in most cases harder for the family. Kaye has every right to her own opinion & to express it. Jessica gave a very good & balanced reply. Both men & women need to be equally grateful for one another & show it daily, in order for any relationship to be successful. It’s out of line for you to assume without having facts. Everyone’s situation is different. While I’m glad to hear you are blessed with an awesome husband, the reality is, not everyone else is blessed in the same way, otherwise the divorce rate wouldn’t hold steady at 50%.
Lastly, insinuating that certain people who have commented are jealous of Jessica is incorrect. Jealousy is a protective reaction to a perceived threat, i.e. the threat of separation from or the loss of a romantic partner for example. The proper word is envy, there’s a possibility they’re envious of Jessica, & when anyone is feeling envious the thing to do is ask yourself, what is it about me that I’m dissatisfied with? & What really needs to change in my life in order to feel content again? Love your positive insight & perspective Jessica. Keep up the good work.
shari says
Hello, I COMPLETELY agree with your suggestions on how to entice your man. You are really just reminding us all how to be nice and considerate to our mate. It’s a real shame that the feminists have brain washed us all in to thinking that being kind and considerate makes us subservient.
Jessica says
Thank you Shari! That means a ton! I was caught off guard at some of the comments on my social media outlets for sure. That’s SURE not what I intended…
Everyone is certainly entitled to their own opinion, but some were just flat out harsh!
Thank you so much for commenting!!
Martha says
ITA. This is just “be polite” Sad that some have to be reminded. In my house we thank each other for even the small things. Like picking up a cup one of us left on the table and putting it in the sink. We always thank the person that made the meal, even if it is just a salad.
And we are always telling each other how much we love one another. You never know when the last time will be the “last time” you say those words.
Jessica says
Is it sad that I had to google what “ITA,” meant!? Hahaha! Thank you so much for your comment. You’re so right, you never know what each day holds. I love what you do in your home. I will try to implement that in our home as well! Thanks for visiting! I hope you visit back! XO
Tasneem says
Hi Jessica dear, thanks so much I usually read the articles and jst skip but this is first time I read the conversation wht people talk regarding this article ….it’s very much good and helpful will do try and make sure tht I be a wonderful wife like
Jessica says
Thank you Tasneem! So fun to have you stop by and drop a note! ๐
Dora says
Well said,we never know when is the last time
My husband always thank me after every meal that I ask myself if they are always delicious or …perhaps the effort I put in making them
Jessica says
Aww, yes! Love that! ๐
Brooke says
I understand what ur saying but my husband has ptsd and he stays gone for days and I’ll go by his friends and just drive by he never knows but he just wont come home he says he doesn’t want to be here but doesn’t say y
Danielle says
I’ve had to remind him to say Thank you for things, he does it more often now.
Karma says
I absolutely love and agree with this post. Although popular worldly standards say put yourself first all of the successfull marriages I have witnesses involve both putting the other first. A close friend of mine wrote an article once where she interviewed both her parents asking what made their marriage work. Each one unbenown to the other said that although they knew they theirself failed many times , the other put them first. I thought that was beautiful. Each one saw the best in the other with a willing heart to continue to improve. How amazing is that. They have been married for 40 plus years and still going strong.
Jessica says
Thank you so much for your comment! That is so awesome to hear that! I love all of those success stories. You’re so right. That IS beautiful!!!
Gwen says
Whoah there, not so fast. Please don’t use the term “feminist” in place of “misandrist” Feminists are people wish that men and women be equal. If you are a woman who wants to be considered lesser than a man, I really don’t understand you. About the article, I don’t think any of these tips are necessarily specific to men, they’re more about being considerate of your partner. If this had been titled differently, I don’t think there would have been as much of a response.
Jessica says
Thank you so much for coming by and leaving a note Gwen! You’re right! These tips would be good for any partner! I simply wrote the post geared towards women, because women make up 90% of my audience here on the blog!
I had no idea it would go so viral, or I probably would have changed it! ๐ Thanks again!
Meagan says
Hi Shari, just throwing it out there that the real idea of feminism supports equality of both women and men. A lot of people misunderstand the word or movement, but it’s really supposed to be about women being whatever they want even if it’s “masculine” like a scientist, CEO, politician, etc, and men being whatever they want even if it’s “feminine” like a nurse, teacher, stay-at-home dad, etc. Its about mutual respect, really listening to each other, and not belittling or limiting each half of the population.
I consider myself a feminist and found this article while looking for nice things to do for my boyfriend, because he is so generous and caring with me that I want to put more effort into being the same way back!
I think we both are in agreement of the same things. Just trying to straighten out what feminism is really trying to be about.
Meagan says
Oops just read the dates on these, and that someone has already commented on the feminism thing, and am now feeling silly! Please disregard comment if you already got the idea.
Carmen says
Ditto! I stumbled upon this article as well and loved the suggestions to do caring things for your husband ( boyfriend, partner). I think some people just overreacted with the title of the blog. This is just geared towards that healthy happy relationship and how to keep that spark going with acts of kindness. Thank you Jessica for posting this!!
Lynda says
Iโve been married 50 years,seems my husband donโt care like he use to!Iโve all but stripped his clothes off!! NOTHING!!!!SO ADVISE PLEASE!!